Should I Go to Therapy? How to Know When It’s Time to Get Support in Los Angeles or Online in California

If you’re asking yourself, “Should I go to therapy?” (especially this time of year) there’s a good chance you’re carrying something heavy — something you’ve been trying to navigate on your own for far too long. Many people reach this question after months or years of struggling with anxiety, heartbreak, burnout, or relational exhaustion that simply aren’t shifting. And when the holidays add even more pressure, it’s completely understandable to wonder if it’s time to finally have someone in your corner.

As a psychotherapist in Los Angeles who also offers virtual therapy throughout California, I hear this question all the time. Clients often tell me they’ve tried everything: reading self-help books, talking to friends, pushing through, avoiding the problem, or hoping it would get better with time. Instead, they find themselves in the same painful cycle — only more discouraged, stuck, and overwhelmed.

You are not alone. And more importantly, you don’t have to stay in that cycle.

Why Therapy Helps (Often Sooner Than You Think)

People are often surprised to learn that many clients feel relief after their very first therapy session.

How is that possible?

Because therapy gives you something most people rarely get in daily life:

• A safe, non-judgmental space

• A trained professional who understands patterns and emotions

• Someone who asks the right questions so you can hear your own truth

I can’t tell you how many breakthroughs begin with something simple, like exploring a client’s daily routine and discovering:

• they’re eating just one meal a day or often skipping meals,

• their schedule leaves little or no free time a week,

• they’re living driven by FOG — fear, obligation, and guilt,

• or they don’t even know what they enjoy, they’ve never been taught to prioritize their needs.

When you slow down and speak things out loud with someone who is truly listening, connections finally click. Patterns you’ve been trapped in start to make sense. And change becomes possible.

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If You’re Thinking About Starting Therapy, Try Asking Yourself These questions:

1. How would your life feel if nothing changed?

Really imagine it — the stress, the anxiety, the loneliness, the relationship strain, the exhaustion.

Would you be okay living this way in six months? A year? Ten years?

2. What’s holding you back from starting therapy?

Is it fear? Money? Not knowing what to expect? The vulnerability?

You get to bring all of those concerns to therapy — especially the fears.

3. If you knew therapy would actually help, would you start?

Most people say yes.

And often, that quiet “yes” is the beginning of transformation.

Therapy Is a Choice to Do Something Different

As humans, we live by habits — even the ones that hurt — because they help us feel stable.

But when your patterns are no longer supporting your well-being, it’s time to learn a new way.

That’s what therapy offers:

a place to unlearn what no longer serves you and build something healthier in its place.

Whether you’re looking for therapy in Los Angeles or prefer the flexibility of online therapy anywhere in California, support is available.

If Something in You Wants Change, This Is Your Sign

If you’re reading this and thinking, “Maybe it’s time…” — I invite you to take the next small step.

A free consultation is a gentle way to explore whether therapy feels like the right fit. You can ask your questions, share your concerns, and get the clarity you deserve.

I always tell my clients:

The best way to grow is simply to try.

If it doesn’t feel right, you can pivot.

This is how we get unstuck — one brave, imperfect step at a time. Fumbling through is getting through, and we learn more as we practice.

“Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves… Live the questions now. Perhaps you will gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.” — Rainer Maria Rilke

If you’re ready to begin — whether in-person therapy in Los Angeles or virtual therapy anywhere in California — I’m here when you are.

📞 Reach out today for a free consultation.